Most couples never actually agree on how they’ll use their phones. They just assume. One expects a reply within minutes; the other checks messages twice a day. One posts everything; the other posts nothing. The gap between those unspoken expectations is where most digital arguments start.

The Digital Boundaries Handbook helps you replace assumptions with clear, fair agreements about replies, read receipts, location sharing, posting, privacy, phones at the table and in bed, ex-partners, arguing over text and family group chats. Just as important, it shows you how to tell a healthy boundary from control.

What’s inside

• Boundary or control? A four-question test that separates healthy, mutual boundaries from rules used to monitor or control.
• The 4C Loop: Clarify your needs, Communicate them, Commit to an agreement, Check in and adjust.
• Topic-by-topic options: fair choices for replies, read receipts, location, posting, passwords, phones at meals and in bed, exes and more.
• Conversation scripts: openers, topic scripts, de-escalation lines and closers for the “digital expectations” talk.
• A relationship tech agreement, response-time menu and ready-to-send message templates.
• 7 printable worksheets: friction audit, needs and conversation plan, availability map, tech agreement, wider-circle planner, tracker and review.

Who it’s for

Couples at any stage (dating, living together, married or long-distance), plus anyone who wants calmer expectations with friends, family group chats or work messages.

Time required

About 1 hour to read, then 30 minutes of reflection each, one 45- to 60-minute conversation, and short check-ins after two weeks and then monthly.

Instant PDF download, 42 pages. For general educational purposes; not counseling, therapy or legal advice. Licensed for the purchaser’s personal use.